Monday, December 20, 2010

The Importance of Being Thoughtful

I have only had a blog for a few days, but I am just absolutely amazed at how sweet everyone is. How eager you all are to read each other's stories, and how open you are with your own. It is wonderful to say the least(:

I have received more comments than I thought I would in 3 posts, and so many lovely emails from many of you! Honestly, besides hearing from Ryan, any feedback I get is the highlight of my day.

It feels great knowing that I can talk about my feelings concerning my relationship, and not feel bad about it. I am  only one of two out of my group of friends that is in a serious relationship, and by far the only one in a long-distance MILITARY one. I feel awkward sharing my feelings with them, only because I know they do not really understand. It doesn't hurt my feelings, and I know they love me and want to be there for me as much as possible... it just doesn't sit right.

Here though, a majority of you are either in the same situation I am, will be, or have been previously. The support system is such a beautiful thing, and I am so glad that I was introduced to this.

I didn't get to video chat with Ryan this morning because I was at work, but we did talk on AIM thanks to my droid phone. Best purchase EVER. He was being so cute. Telling me he loved me and that he was sorry we couldn't Skype but that he couldn't wait to see and talk to me the next morning. Then he finally sent me some new pictures of himself with a little tag that read "for you baby :]"

AHH!!!! When he is adorable like that it just makes me miss him more! :/
He looked so handsome.

Well, for the night I thought I'd share some quotes I found. The last one is by far my favorite<3 Enjoy!

"whatever souls are made of, him and mine are the same"

"There's a reason why two people
come together and stay together;
they both give each other something 
no one else can."

Love is patient, love is kind. It 
does not envy, it does not boast, 
it is not proud. It is not rude, it is 
not self-seeking, it is not easily 
angered, it keeps no record of 
wrongs. Love does not delight in 
evil but rejoices with the truth. It 
always protects, always trusts, 
always hopes, always perseveres

"Love isn't him calming you down when you yell.
It's him yelling, just as loud, just as hard, right back at you, right in your face to wake you up and keep you grounded.
It isn't him bringing you roses everyday or cute things that make your relationship appear more presentable.
It's after a long fight, that drains the life and bones out of both of you, and yet him showing up at your door the next morning anyway.
It's not him saying all the right things or knowing exactly how to handle you. It's not him caressing your hair and telling you everything is going to be alright.
It's him standing there, admitting he's just as scared as you are."

"The night we talked; We talked about life, about our times together. Maybe we aren't the same two kids we once were, but some things never change. Some things last & even though I didn't know what was going to happen to us or where we were going, I just knew I couldn't let you out of my life."

“Long-term relationships- the ones that matter- are all about weathering the peaks and valleys”

"You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."

(I'm considering getting this one as a tattoo :X)
"No one else will have me like you do.
No one else will have me, only you."

"Contrary to what the cynics say, 
distance is not for the fearful. It's 
for the bold. It's for those willing 
to spend a lot of time alone in 
exchange for a little time with the
one they love. It's for those knowing 
a good thing when they see it. Even 
if they don't see it nearly enough."



  1. Your right this support system is great. I really like all your quotes that you found Thanks for sharing!

  2. Awwww I loved the last quote as well, I jacked it from your blog and put on my facebook lol hope you don't mind. Thanks for sharing. And yes this support system is great. And I understand how you feel about your friends not really understanding, it's all a difference. And also, no I didn't design my blog, Erin at Moore to love designs did it. she did a wonderful job (: & i love it.

  3. You are absolutely right. The support is amazing. Sometimes I find that I don't even have to say a lot and people just "get it".

  4. AWWEEEE this is a sweet post. No lie girlie i just sat there reading and went aweeeee. that is great you and ryan have such a great relationship :) i'm always available to listen and let you talk! I might be on otherside of country but i'm always there ! I skyped last night, i thought of you!

  5. This is a great post! I love all of the quotes. The last one is wonderful. I really loved the quote that starts with "Love isn't him calming you down when you yell" Love it!

    Hope you have a great day!

  6. I spent the first two months of deployment with a regular phone...then I updated to the droid. You are right. Those things are AWESOME...especially since the army hasn't stopped gchat in the office yet. I'm going to follow!